We are inherently loving beings. As psychoanalyst Ronald Fairbairn pointed out, as little ones, we need to love and have our love received, as well as to be loved. When we are not adequately received, or we feel unsafe to love, our loving nature can become stilted. Our hearts harden. We become driven by fear. […]

Once upon a time you were born. In the timeless months preceding this momentous event, you lived, grew, developed, learned – yes learned – within a dark, watery womb inside your mother. Life before birth is an essential period of rapid learning, as the little one prepares for the world he or she will be […]

A new year is upon us. This is a time of death and birth, when we acknowledge the completion of the old year and welcome in the new. In the process, we often unconsciously re-enact our birth history. We naturally tend at this time to evaluate our accomplishments, experiences and our lives over the last […]

In this darkest time of the year (at least in the northern hemisphere), we seek and celebrate the light. For many, this is a busy holiday time of year. There is Christmas shopping, holiday parties, family gatherings. This may or may not be highly enjoyable. Many look forward to the fun and heart-warming times with […]

How do we continue to practice opening our hearts, applying kindness to ourselves and others, cultivating compassion and presence, and staying self-regulated, even in the face of chaos, change and uncertainty prevailing in our world? As far as I can tell, I am not the only one who has experienced shock in relation to the recent U.S. elections, […]